World Peace - the Ego - Femdom submission.

Watching the news and all the strife in the world made me sit and reflect on the madness in the world. One group tries to suppress another group through violence, through political, legal and religious means. On a basic level it really stems from one person trying to enforce their view on another as the legitimate one. You'll hear, "my religion is the right one, the rest of you will burn in hell for eternity. God gave us the right way and you are all mislead and will burn in hell and suffer damnation. If you don't accept my religion right now then you'll be forced into it by other means" This is one example and you can extrapolate that to any other ideology.

Sitting on my couch, I remember the teachings of Confucius where he states that there are no new problems, but the same problems in different forms. The essence of the problem is the same throughout history, it just looks different because it changes to reflect the times. The religious/political wars of the past are still the same, except that there are new weapons and new methods of warfare. One would argue that power and money are the root of all the evils, but I would urge them to go a step further and see that the ego and ego gratification are at the root of that. What good is money and power if you cant flaunt it, can't be adored for it, can't be thought of as elite and special.

The ego and its' gratification is the root of all evil. Once that is removed then there is true social consciousness (one reality - oneness in everything - no sense of separation) and in turn the elimination of duality (me vs you, us vs them, the haves and have nots). With the ego gone, there is no hunger for power and money to satisfy the needs of the ego. Power and money are used in the interests of the common good. Even though another person has different ideological beliefs, they are accepted and respected to be that persons beliefs - not good or bad - just different. Then and only then peace can come about.

Eliminating of the ego is something that many religions preach and the method prescribed is submission to the will of God. i sometimes think of that submission in terms of bdsm as well. Many times slaves will claim to submit to a domme, but essentially they are driven by their desire to satiate their sex drive, to satisfy an aspect of their ego, to get something for something. i'm guilty of the same with my submission to Miss Shola. i do recognize that. i want Her approval, i wish to have a really special place in Her life, and when those things are threatened (in my head, not in actuality) i worry about it. True submission would be to serve regardless of whether She spoke to me or not, whether or not i was dear to Her or not - totally selfless. i'm not there yet in my submission to Her. i do know that i'm not very needy and have a natural desire in me to just work for Her, think of ways i can improve Her life and how i serve Her without being told or directed. my work for Her now is a labour of love and devotion to Her. Maybe in my own way i'm making progress. Then again, that's not for me to say, but my Mistress :)

Religion/Spirituality and BDSM

A thought occurred to me going over the various posts on facebook by dominants and submissives. Words like worship, tribute, service, obedience, among the many one can see on any given day. It made me think if one were to approach someone on the street and asked them what those words bring to mind, they'd answer religion or bdsm depending on what is more dominant in their life.

It made me think of bdsm from the eyes of religion or spirituality and find the similarities and differences. Both are similiar in that;
1) There is a focus on one authority - God is religious affairs and a dominant in bdsm. The dominant in bdsm is almost like a demi-god/goddess. Both worshipped in adoration, although the dominant in bdsm has a strong sexual pull, while the God of religion is more like a paternal/maternal figure.
2) Worship, obedience and loyalty to that one authority is a requirement and a slave/submissive is moulded by that adherence to the dictates of that authority.
3) Tribute or tithing is common to both, although again one is mandatory for the time spent with a dominant while tithing is recommended, but not enforced.
4) Both can give very powerful experiences to the submissive or worshipper - spiritual elation or sub-space.
5) Both have the potential of bringing betterment in an individuals life, but also in their negative aspect both can bring out the worst in a person as well.
6) There is an aspect of both that may encourage someone to seek someone other than their primary partner, that may not be required in ones spiritual journey. The sub or dom/domme may seek outside their relationship. The spiritual person may seek others like him/her.

The differences are:

1) A non-sexual versus sexual aspect between the two.
2) One brings spiritual nourishment while the other sexual nourishment. Sexual nourishment only fulfils for a limited time, while spiritual nourishment can fulfil for a longer time.
3) Spiritual progress can take a person to higher, more subtle and refined experiences, with bdsm the descent into further practise has the potential of getting into more hardcore practices.

I'm not trying to dissuade people from bdsm, but undertaking a comparative study. Guided by an evolved guide in both bdsm and spirituality the seeker/submissive can become a better person for it. It comes down to awareness of the right people in your life.

In my own experience, i've found that Miss Shola, has impacted my personal life in positive ways, allowed me to enjoy the sexual aspects of bdsm and also taken me into deeper levels of submission to Her while being a reassuring presence. i've never experienced an openness whereby i don't filter out any thought and speak my mind whatever it is. It is also a vulnerability that feels like being totally naked and exposed - showing the good and the bad. To admit humbly that She does mean a lot to me and that i am addicted to Her and that i do need Her in my life. If i do have to submit to a dominant and give up my freedoms, then i'm happy that the one i submit to does truly cares for me.